“What?” He said.
“Nothing” I replied.
“Well, it’s just that- I wish you were more like….No, I wish you could. Well let me put it this way. Victoria’s husband put in an island in their kitchen, and cut the cabinets to fit the new oven. Lindsay’s husband builds BBQ grills out of scrap metal. DJ’s husband has a boat that he works on and plans family vacations around.
His reply was genius, and I think, will mark a huge turning point in how I view my husband.
“um, no, in fact Lindsay was just complaining that her husband never did the dishes- ever- b/c his mom didn’t make him do it as a kid”
“Well there you have it. I DO dishes, I DO laundry(which is true, he’s just spent the entire day washing/folding/putting away about 10 loads)….and I take the trash out too. I'm that kind of husband- but I'm sorry Kase. I'm not handy.” and with that he rolled over and went to sleep.
I continued thinking to myself though.
Actually, I’d RATHER be handy…than do dishes or laundry. I’m not sure if there are other women out there like me who would too, but do any of them actually have what I have? -a husband that would rather do laundry and dishes?? I started to think the situation out differently. Rather than complaining about what Josh didn't do, maybe I should start being happy about what he DOES actually do! Did I just uncover a treasure in the attic worth millions, a house-husband?!
And, I can totally be handy myself, I thought, I know how to change tires, and repair gate latches. Heck, I make Halloween costumes out of scratch…surely I can come up with the answer to that wobbly dishwasher.
The next day I took it upon myself to visit "The Man Store" (Home Depot) In one afternoon I painted our bathroom, repaired all the baseboards, and fixed the lighting. However, I must admit, I need help cutting the boards- I can’t use a powersaw…I’m too afraid. So my husband did that for me. And, I didn't know how to cut the wires to the lighting, my brother did that.
Josh also fixed the wobbly dishwasher at my continued urging. I knew he was handy, he just needed encouragement (ie nagging).
Do you think it’s too late for me to start burning dinners- claiming “I can’t cook”?